The Obedience Crucible
There comes a time in a man's life when he must prove his love & loyalty
The Obedience Crucible
There comes a time in a man's life when he must prove his love & loyalty
When you’re truly in love and surrendering yourself to the Woman that you love; sometimes to consecrate your loyalty to her in order to gain adoration from her you must be put through The Crucible. When it comes to submission and surrender the next step is to fall under her authority in obedience to her. The Crucible is a moment in one’s life that’s made for a man to prove himself worthy to be surrendered to.
Many men have come to a belief that has been selectively been chosen to indoctrinate them into believing that surrender and submission to a woman shows weakness, that’s further from the truth. It takes a bold and brave, and even stronger man to kneel before the woman that he loves dearly. Those men that refuse to do so are really the weaker men. A humble attitude makes a man much stronger. The prerequisite surrender of love and loyalty is the firm foundation of submission. The balanced amalgamation of meekness and masculinity produces a man unlike any other. He is able to show his true brute but when needed he can without hesitant anxiety his more vulnerable self.
Being vulnerable scared the living daylights out of most men; Once again going back to that generational indoctrination by both religion and culture. The display of emotion is something that is frowned upon by most cultures (ethos). As the old saying goes; ”There is a TIME and PLACE for EVERYTHING” tends to get overlooked and lost in translation. There are times where a man must show his deep rooted emotions such as crying, feeling need of a comforting consoling; but also to release his inner primal state of passion and desire. Men are so confounded with convolution no wonder some tend to show rage and that leads to abuse. Striking a balance of emotion and masculinity goes back to the process of amalgamation balancing meekness and masculinity.
Having a woman that can help a man to be disciplined with accountability mixed with a caring nature of nurturing is the ultimate relationship balance. This is called Power Sharing. When a man surrenders to being held accountable for his behavior by the woman that he loves, he shows her not only how much he cares about himself, but how much he cherishes in honor of her being his Help-mate. In disciplining him, she shows him how much she cares about his progression as a man in purging himself of toxic behaviors. Just as there is Toxic Femininity, there is Toxic Masculinity. Bad behavior from anyone Male or Female must be purged in The Crucible. In order to have a harmonious life together there needs to be boundaries and rules set. Once those are set in place the foundation of discipline comes in.
The discipline that may occur are many to chose from. During this period of time of The Crucible, the relationship will be Female Led. She will make the rules and she will be the Disciplinarian. The Man must be submissively obedient to her.
In this time there may be some bucking rebellious attitude on the Man’s part. That will get resolved in due time. This is the mental pain of surrendering full authority and control (Power Sharing) that he’s facing. The woman must stay firm, steadfast, and fair with her man during this time. Her role is to guide her man through this period of de-toxic purging himself of bad behaviors. Through this process the man is getting a mental, moral, and spiritual make-over. His soul will become freer to lead him to become the real man that he needs to be, a much stronger man. The mental discipling comes with being held accountable either by clear communication with a mix of scolding to get his undivided attention in order to solidly establish the rules when needed. The physical part of discipline will be if she decides that something physical like a spanking, putting him up against the wall, or taking certain special things he does away from him like hanging out with the Boys. The taking away his time with his male friends might be embarrassing and humiliating to him but it sends the message that his behavior must improve in order to regain that time back. The spiritual part that encompasses the moral is the overall desired effect that him a a person in a holistic manner is being molded into a better man.
The Crucible of Obedience can take months if not a full year depending upon how long the woman desires and the behavior of the man and his progress of becoming the man she desires. When all of it is said and done in full completion going through this crucible will make way for an even stronger more passionate relationship between the two. If mutually agreed upon, all of this can be reversed from time to time in order to strengthen the relationship even more.
* Note: There is such a thing as ‘Christian Domestic Discipline’ The Crucible of Obedience is designed to be mutually agreed upon and not dictated by one or the other, and like previously stated, reversible. If you have children, this can be played out in a low-key manner built around the man respecting the woman in such a way that he becomes are male role model for her or his own children (in case of divorced singles). Still you are engaged in The Crucible in an ‘undercover’ mode. The Journal does not endorse displaying of sexualized BDSM around children younger than 18. Keep the Kink in the bedroom for their sake. Remember, this is free will and voluntary in a mutual agreement. The Journal does not endorse Spousal Abuse of any kind.
* This has been Part 1 of a NEW Series. Stay tuned to more about The Obedience Crucible where we will go into much further detail on things that can be done in a Children-less environment and with children (to make it Kosher).
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The Obedience Crucible
There comes a time in a man's life when he must prove his love & loyalty
PART ONE